OMFG…

ENOUGH OF THE MUM SHAME!!!!!!!??

It’s not often that I go full steam ahead on an issue but my gloves are very much on for this.

STOP IT!!!!!

Anyone… ANYONE who has kids, no matter WHAT your parenting type or strategies KNOWS it doesn’t ALWAYS work out the way you had hoped or dreamed of!

Kids can be absolute ??!

Let’s just clear that elephant in the room right up!

They WILL throw “developmental” tantrums.

They WILL leave you “red faced” in public places… usually the SO NOT appropriate forums of course.

They WILL push ALL your buttons… especially when your system is clearly on overload!

They will need when you have NOTHING left.

They will “box your balls” on things that are ridiculous.

I mean… “No… (with baby in arms and dog on lead) do NOT run, EVER out on the road!!!!”

“But mum… I know what I’m doing!” Or… “but daddy lets me!”

Ffs!!!

There WILL be days, months even fucking years, where YOUR world is literally falling apart BUT… you do EVERYTHING in your power to make it work for THEM!!!

You guessed it… you cooked the eggs wrong or forgot a birthday party invite ??‍♀️??… side note… what genuine idiot removed the middle finger from the hand emoji section???

Point is…

YOU are simply HUMAN!

Your beloved kid is… simply HUMAN!

I feel like the definition of human should be “imperfect”!

SHIT IS GOING TO HAPPEN!

YOU ARE GOING TO GO TO PLACES YOU DIDN’T KNOW POSSIBLE!!! Both good and bad.?

BUT…

This shit around shaming parents out for NOT being 2/5/8 year old whispers is ridiculous!!!!

Let’s get REAL here.

If you LOVE with ALL your heart, that beautiful little ?, if there is literally NOTHING you wouldn’t do (if possible) for that little ?, you have been ?‘d on, ?‘d on, let them fall ? on you and ?‘d them… with absolute ? FOR them…

YOU ARE DOING FINE!!!

NOT PERFECT, BUT FINE!

They may need MORE!

They may WANT more!

They may step off path here and there!

They may get it ALL wrong in their little brains (that see such AMAZING and wondrous things)!

But if YOU LOVE them and do YOUR best to tell them and SHOW them…

BREATHE

You need NOT concern yourself with the crap on line!

So what if they need a psych when they grow up???

So what if they missed out on their toast cut to their expectations???

So WHAT if they got told “NO!!!” Even if it wasn’t done as you had hoped or dreamed of saying/implementing it!

I am NOT the perfect mum and I honestly don’t believe that ideology even exists.

The closest ANYONE can ever hope for is to LOVE with all their heart and keep their cool… especially on the days when the kids are pushing hard, life is falling down AND you are ready to throw in the towel!

Yep… those days ARE real AND… fairly common for many.

There… I said it!

Being a MUM is bloody hard!

So, don’t add to it the crap of the internet. The he said, she said. The expert told me that…

Save it for your kids to simply LOVE them AND to learn (day by day) to LOVE yourself!

ALL they need is to KNOW you LOVE them… the rest is just life xxx

Keep going, you got this xxxx